Sex And Disability – Do The Two Go Together?


There are some things  that are an integral part of life. Food, shelter form the things that are required at the bottom of the pyramid of human needs. Things that come next in the hierarchy of importance are independence and productivity. An individual should be productive and should earn enough to support self and family.

After these two things, love, companionship and expression of love through sex take a place of importance. We take these things, especially the expression of love through sex for granted. However, for a disabled person, the physical act of sex is equally important. It is not that disabled people are devoid of love. However since sex is a natural outcome of love, a disabled person also needs to be able to express him or herself by taking part in sex.

Of course, a disabled person may not have the freedom to make choices in terms of sex. However, there are a number of myths that need to be dispelled about disability and sex. The first myth is that disabled persons are not able to marry and have a fulfilling and sexual life. The fact is that it all depends upon the relationship between a disabled person and his or her partner.

As a partner, a disabled person may have to make certain compromises in terms of sex. That may not necessarily mean that the relationship cannot be gratifying. Gratifying is what gratifying means within a marriage.

Another myth is that disabled people do not have sex as a priority or should attach to much importance to sex. As it is disabled, people have a lot to worry about, without having to worry about sex.

This is another fallacy that basically arises out of the tendency of non-disabled people to patronize the disabled. The non-disabled have no right to tell the disabled what is important for them and what is not.

We should treat issues of the disabled with more respect, maturity and understanding.